Whoever said change is impossible is ridiculous.
This one goes out to those who have been blinded by the past and are haunted by it.
Changing a person is impossible, most definitely. Unless of course they work for you as a model, not definitely.
But if you have someone in your life who has either moved onto a different path or is going their separate way no matter how hard it is, you can't change the history you had or the future you might not have.
We can't change another person ever. Even if you did, it's wrong.
Think about your worst fight with a significant other. They have done you wrong, but in their eyes they're still figuring themselves out. As much as you want to change what events have occurred between the two of you, it happened for you to move on, not stick around and say "It's OK, it's OK. I understand why." Big N-O. Because it's not OK.
Maybe you're the person doing the damage. If this is you, well you know how it works. You got to want to change yourself, and you know it'll happen when it's meant. It sure will happen. If it hasn't yet, you're not fully grown to your maturity. If you're 35 years old cheating and lying to your spouse, there is most definitely a problem. A problem the other person can't fix or couldn't change about the other person before their vows.
KNOW who you are dealing with.
You can't change the way someone makes you feel, and vice-versa.
You can't change how someone acts towards you, but you can change the way you act towards someone else. The problem today is control.
Control is knowing you feel dominant or liberal. You don't want to stop the chasing, the fun, and the excitement. If you're in the position to say you're not enjoying that already, maybe you could have been if you had made an effort to have some without someone controlling it for you.
BE THE CONTROLLER.
You may not be able to change who you are, you're personality, or your urges; but what you can do is control your future and your actions. Saying NO to what you know is right for you and for anyone depending on you. Saying YES at the right time to things that might not lead anywhere today, but have a potential gain later on.
You gotta give a little, to get a little.
That is the way the world works.
Everyone wants freebies, everyone wants to play this game of life with you.
Don't try to say to yourself you never have. If you truly haven't, after this you will.
However, there's positive to being used. Your feelings at the moment might be immature, weak, and vulnerable; but the possibilities of being down can only mean the complete opposite later on. Your time will come, and you'll remember who treated you like a person and not a tool. They will wash your hands after you washing theirs. You will wash the hands that washed yours someday as well.
Be alert. The best way to avoid these bad changes is to change your steps into what you know you have faced by looking into the past.
Everyday is a new day, but the occurrences that happen might surprise you. Call it Karma?
Either look away, turn around, or whatever it takes for you to give the red for the bad, and the green for the good.
And that's Real Talk.
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
Sunday, September 27, 2009
How Sick Are We?
In a world of truth and diversity, the story of each character is more realistic than you could ever imagine or believe. This idea is tampered with when greed and corruption begin to take hold of what is available. Another way to look at this is obsession. Obsession can kill a person, by health and mind. When your judgment is based on a want more than a need, it becomes hard to recognize which is more important. Self-relief becomes a priority over self-improvement. Don't be fooled as to what self-improvement really is. Recall the past or your prior experience, and proceed with caution.
How does this affect us The People?
Believe it or not it does. Think about the worst salesman you have ever met. Not only is he a liar, but he wants to give you in most cases, a smaller or used portion of the product. You get a used car that looks great, smells amazing, and then you finally sit in it a day in and already noticing every small detail. Like a gash in the seat...between your legs. Not crazy yet. Until your neat freak side, if you have one, switches into engage.
Processed Food.
Think about the food we eat today. Most of the stuff is preserved with chemicals and even bleached with the same stuff we clean our laundry with. More true than you believe (some "Natural" products are fraud). In any event, all of this information can be easily looked up all over the internet. What you eat and your habits are your gateway from living stress, toxin-free and overly-stressed, toxic.
Smoking and Drinking.
Stress-relievers, but if over-used, might take away any days left to enjoy and then some.
Notice, the best time for smoking is after you've consumed the drink and need to shake off the buzz. Well, at least calm it down. Personally, no matter how many times you can reach over to grab a cigarette, it tastes horrible and leaves the headache you thought you might get rid of. Not happening. Drinking is great when going out or attending a party. Everyone needs to get loose. But the two of these, when not doing anything at all, would be just like killing time. There is so much more in life you can be doing. Conquering fears, proving yourself worthy of things you want, without putting your life in the red. These two habits are also very very expensive. Think of all the other things you can be doing with your money. Saving, donating, retiring. One way or another you should be able to enjoy the habits you do have, but do not let a habit become a routine. Habits at one point were once in a while stress relievers and for the time being happy enhancers, but that only lasts for so long before the last straw on the camels back causes it collapse. Relief has it's price. This is one thing you DON'T want to afford. Rich or poor.
Budgeting is great. When you spend more time with the family, significant other, friends, or even at our workplace keeping busy or having fun without spending 1/4 of your ends. Budgeting helps you achieve personal goals you've always wanted to set for yourself without giving you a nasty overhead or a nasty fly on your back wanting to suck your life away with payments. Save up what you can afford to save. Exclude your long term savings.
Vacations.
Even if your not the type to go out to parties, beaches, or anywhere that you cannot stand too much of noise or people. These are great. No matter where you go, no one knows you, so if you happen to find a nice beach to read your books, not saying to be nasty to anyone, but stand your space and declare some. Especially if there's plenty of beach to go around. A nice mood-setting drink might be in order too. I'll take a corona and lime. The ice cream, too.
Am I telling you to stop your comfortable lives? Not at all.
What I do suggest is home-cooked meals, sports/games for the family, outings/barbecues, and positive out-looking for a self-dependent life. Be in charge of your own routine. Live how you want, but take care of yourself. That car can only go so many miles without maintenance.
The road that lies ahead is a lot bumpier than meets the eye; but when you train yourself to drive properly and safely, the odds of an accident or surprise is dramatically low.
And that's Real Talk.
How does this affect us The People?
Believe it or not it does. Think about the worst salesman you have ever met. Not only is he a liar, but he wants to give you in most cases, a smaller or used portion of the product. You get a used car that looks great, smells amazing, and then you finally sit in it a day in and already noticing every small detail. Like a gash in the seat...between your legs. Not crazy yet. Until your neat freak side, if you have one, switches into engage.
Processed Food.
Think about the food we eat today. Most of the stuff is preserved with chemicals and even bleached with the same stuff we clean our laundry with. More true than you believe (some "Natural" products are fraud). In any event, all of this information can be easily looked up all over the internet. What you eat and your habits are your gateway from living stress, toxin-free and overly-stressed, toxic.
Smoking and Drinking.
Stress-relievers, but if over-used, might take away any days left to enjoy and then some.
Notice, the best time for smoking is after you've consumed the drink and need to shake off the buzz. Well, at least calm it down. Personally, no matter how many times you can reach over to grab a cigarette, it tastes horrible and leaves the headache you thought you might get rid of. Not happening. Drinking is great when going out or attending a party. Everyone needs to get loose. But the two of these, when not doing anything at all, would be just like killing time. There is so much more in life you can be doing. Conquering fears, proving yourself worthy of things you want, without putting your life in the red. These two habits are also very very expensive. Think of all the other things you can be doing with your money. Saving, donating, retiring. One way or another you should be able to enjoy the habits you do have, but do not let a habit become a routine. Habits at one point were once in a while stress relievers and for the time being happy enhancers, but that only lasts for so long before the last straw on the camels back causes it collapse. Relief has it's price. This is one thing you DON'T want to afford. Rich or poor.
Budgeting is great. When you spend more time with the family, significant other, friends, or even at our workplace keeping busy or having fun without spending 1/4 of your ends. Budgeting helps you achieve personal goals you've always wanted to set for yourself without giving you a nasty overhead or a nasty fly on your back wanting to suck your life away with payments. Save up what you can afford to save. Exclude your long term savings.
Vacations.
Even if your not the type to go out to parties, beaches, or anywhere that you cannot stand too much of noise or people. These are great. No matter where you go, no one knows you, so if you happen to find a nice beach to read your books, not saying to be nasty to anyone, but stand your space and declare some. Especially if there's plenty of beach to go around. A nice mood-setting drink might be in order too. I'll take a corona and lime. The ice cream, too.
Am I telling you to stop your comfortable lives? Not at all.
What I do suggest is home-cooked meals, sports/games for the family, outings/barbecues, and positive out-looking for a self-dependent life. Be in charge of your own routine. Live how you want, but take care of yourself. That car can only go so many miles without maintenance.
The road that lies ahead is a lot bumpier than meets the eye; but when you train yourself to drive properly and safely, the odds of an accident or surprise is dramatically low.
And that's Real Talk.
Saturday, September 12, 2009
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Rivalries: The Common Itch
Have you ever sat in on loud yelling, snotty attitudes, corny comebacks, and worst of all-- out of spite revenge attacks?
If you haven't, these common occurrences often happen between who? Siblings.
If you don't have these relationships that you cannot help but love, or not-- the best way to describe the highest level of revenge usually happens here. Attention is usually the case. Headaches, too.
However, sometimes it happens between good friends. For some people that's a BFF.
In this case you have the same issue, except you have more of a somewhat familiar competition. Usually a opposite gender is the target of the problem, sometimes an unwillingness to talk about something bothering one or the other.
In either case the relationship, as strong as you may think it is, can go hay-wire and things could get worse and worse. Until you have found some ground with the situation, these things could go on forever.
Sometimes closure or an explanation to something you don't understand will clear the way.
For instance, actions.
A solution I propose is to really talk to yourself about what you are having a tough time dealing with, and then move from there. Talking it out helps. Just don't keep talking so people will feel bad for you. Show yourself you want a change, and then change it. The effects may not be to yo expectations, but they could be. Better to know for sure, than never know at all. Especially, if the other person being talked to is the problem and you don't want to end things on a bad note.
Best friends and/or siblings is hard to come by in these days. Everyone has their own agenda, but in all reality, the fun is where it started in the beginning. For others, the fun is to come when you have someone with the same interests who can also challenge your opinion and make you want to learn more from one another and share experiences.
No one likes having their foot stepped on, so account for your actions.
Sometimes a victory, is actually a loss. And vice-versa.
This weekend and on should be a great time with the people who REALLY have your backs, and those who, though might not tell you what you want to hear, will give you an idea of where you know where you are, where you'd like to go, and where you might want to end up.
Remember, life is a thrill as well as an adventure. Nothing goes as planned ever, but having your tools in front of you will most likely finish the job versus trying to make a cheeseburger with no cheese.
We want to build a house, not a shed. Unless you have a house and happen to need a shed. Which in turn will find storage for your tools.
And that's REAL.
If you haven't, these common occurrences often happen between who? Siblings.
If you don't have these relationships that you cannot help but love, or not-- the best way to describe the highest level of revenge usually happens here. Attention is usually the case. Headaches, too.
However, sometimes it happens between good friends. For some people that's a BFF.
In this case you have the same issue, except you have more of a somewhat familiar competition. Usually a opposite gender is the target of the problem, sometimes an unwillingness to talk about something bothering one or the other.
In either case the relationship, as strong as you may think it is, can go hay-wire and things could get worse and worse. Until you have found some ground with the situation, these things could go on forever.
Sometimes closure or an explanation to something you don't understand will clear the way.
For instance, actions.
A solution I propose is to really talk to yourself about what you are having a tough time dealing with, and then move from there. Talking it out helps. Just don't keep talking so people will feel bad for you. Show yourself you want a change, and then change it. The effects may not be to yo expectations, but they could be. Better to know for sure, than never know at all. Especially, if the other person being talked to is the problem and you don't want to end things on a bad note.
Best friends and/or siblings is hard to come by in these days. Everyone has their own agenda, but in all reality, the fun is where it started in the beginning. For others, the fun is to come when you have someone with the same interests who can also challenge your opinion and make you want to learn more from one another and share experiences.
No one likes having their foot stepped on, so account for your actions.
Sometimes a victory, is actually a loss. And vice-versa.
This weekend and on should be a great time with the people who REALLY have your backs, and those who, though might not tell you what you want to hear, will give you an idea of where you know where you are, where you'd like to go, and where you might want to end up.
Remember, life is a thrill as well as an adventure. Nothing goes as planned ever, but having your tools in front of you will most likely finish the job versus trying to make a cheeseburger with no cheese.
We want to build a house, not a shed. Unless you have a house and happen to need a shed. Which in turn will find storage for your tools.
And that's REAL.
Monday, September 7, 2009
These awkward days...
For most of us, the stress is piling up and we have nowhere to turn to but our peers, family, and significant others to let out the rage.
I say this to you all out there to keep faith no matter where it lies. We all have something in us that says keep going, don't give up.
What happens when the other voice starts to agree with your poor attitude? Then what? We can hide in a grave for a few years if we'd like to. I personally don't think that's worth a shot. We could sit and discuss with ourselves and whoever is of importance to your decision-making to organize your priorities. Organize your budget and your activities. Getting a better attitude starts from within, and sometimes ice cream or chocolate. But seriously, organization will keep you off your slump, and into a new idea. The voices will have less time to discuss anything. Just be sure to always keep the sane and responsible voice abroad.
A better attitude is the key to any success. Whether you've lost money, job, or someone close. The positive outlook will cure all of these foul-mood pioneers. Starting a new hobby or a new dvd might start it up. No one said to stop doing what you like doing: shopping for new toys, play guitar, etc..
Whatever your choice is, make it positive. And certainly make it last.
I say this to you all out there to keep faith no matter where it lies. We all have something in us that says keep going, don't give up.
What happens when the other voice starts to agree with your poor attitude? Then what? We can hide in a grave for a few years if we'd like to. I personally don't think that's worth a shot. We could sit and discuss with ourselves and whoever is of importance to your decision-making to organize your priorities. Organize your budget and your activities. Getting a better attitude starts from within, and sometimes ice cream or chocolate. But seriously, organization will keep you off your slump, and into a new idea. The voices will have less time to discuss anything. Just be sure to always keep the sane and responsible voice abroad.
A better attitude is the key to any success. Whether you've lost money, job, or someone close. The positive outlook will cure all of these foul-mood pioneers. Starting a new hobby or a new dvd might start it up. No one said to stop doing what you like doing: shopping for new toys, play guitar, etc..
Whatever your choice is, make it positive. And certainly make it last.
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
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